How to determine red flags in Dating
All you have to do is listen to men or watch their actions. Men will tell you what they are willing to do & not do up front. As women, we ignore these flags for various reasons. But in 2026 and beyond if we hear anything that sounds weird, or off it is!
For example, If he asks what you bring to the table, this is a red flag. He’s either wrapped in misognyny naturally or he has allowed the red pill to further perpetuate this old misogynistic views in modern day. A man cannot straddle the fence. He either values women or he doesn’t. If he wants you he has to make a choice and do what you require. You don’t have to bring anything to his table.
If he says “what will you do” this is another a red flag. This is a man who doesn’t know his self or the role of a woman in his life. Both men and women have lost the plot. Women have been programmed to cater to men, serve men, chase men and to believe in the fairy tale. It’s time to wake up. Women are goddesses and men worship Goddesses. That’s it, that’s all! This is what the world and the patriarchy doesn’t want you to know. As a woman, all you have to do is exist and be the opposite of a man. Your femininity, your essence, your presence, your softness, your laughter and your love.
The plot for men is the girl. Getting the girl is the common thread all through their life. There are a few things that they want; a sports car, a Rolex (now AP), and money. But they need and desire the girl and the motivation behind their wants is to get and impress the girl.
Another flag is when they try to negotiate or question your standards in the beginning. If they say things like, why do I always have to call first or I think a woman should do this and that..if you have a different opinion it’s definitely a red flag. Just know that anything he pushed back on in the beginning will come up later as an issue if he persists beyond an initial test.
No matter what boundaries and standards you set men will always challenge you or test you to see if there is some flexibility. Never back down from your standards or boundaries if he persists to push past what you’ve established, you’ve gotta cut him off.
Common Red Flags
- What do you bring to the table?
- What will you do?
- Inconsistent behavior (calling, texting, canceling plans)
- Consistently challenging your standards
- Not spending the holidays with you or buying gifts for holidays
- On and off communication or presence
- The use of the word female and other derogatory speech about women (bitches, hoes, etc.)
- All talk with no actions behind his words
- If every time you call them, they are never available but will call you back later (they had to get away from their wife or girlfriend)
- Trying to rush you for intimacy (your place, his place, staycation, or vacation)
- Never available to talk at night or not available/disappearing on the weekends
- Being cheap and/or having nothing to offer at all
- Waiting for you to call him or initiate / any other type of role reversal
- Trying to make last minute plans
- Calling when he knows you're not available
Don’t forget to listen, observe and always follow your intuition.
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