The End of the Ride to Die Chick and Struggle Love. Why Black Men Want Black Women to Prove their Worth before Receiving Love and Cherishing
Hey Ladies! As we are waking up from our slumber and retiring our capes, we are coming to the awareness that we have been duped by role reversal fools.
We have bought into this idea of a Ride to Die Chick for “men” who have nothing to offer but pain, abuse, and struggle. While, other races of women are seen as soft, pretty, vulnerable and a worthy prize. Black women deserve to be loved and cherished too. This idea of the Ride to Die Chick stems from a long line of misogynistic music, pimp archetypes and the ongoing struggle and destruction of the Black Family Unit.
A majority of our black men believe that we have to earn real dates, earn being treated well, earn money, earn the ring and so much more. These are thought processes of broken “men” who either had no father, broken fathers and watched their mothers struggle. These “men” suffer from severe abandonment issues and rejection.
Of course, no one should throw their pearls to swine (male or female) However, if women don’t set the tone and standards for dating, courtship and marriage then crumbs we shall receive.
Standards and requirements for any man that you engage with must be in place from Day 1. If a man cannot meet your standards, let him go immediately, otherwise you are buying a ticket to his Struggle Love Circus. If you are constantly jumping through hoops to prove that you are loyal to him or that you love him while he plays manipulation games, throws you various test or endure any kind of emotional/physical abuse or cheating, in the end he will never respect you if you make it through the struggle years. He will look at you as a woman who doesn’t respect herself and seek the woman who has high standards.
I wrote in detail in my book on how to avoid fuck boys here https://www.amazon.com/WORKBOOK-HEALING-avoiding-ATTRACTING-DESERVE/dp/
Yes, we have all played the fool for someone's son a time or two. But, time is up! We are only choosing men who are healing, evolving and respect the feminine and the feminine divine.
How can you raise your standards? Meet me at my next blog posts and I will give you some tips.
Always remember that: You deserve a life of love, ease and pleasure.
