In my most recent posts, I like to illustrate the message I am trying to relay by taking a trip back to History. Bringing things back to their origin explains where things started and how “men” and the patriarchy have moved the goal post over time to serve their best interest. Think about if you live in the time where a royal court exists and there are inner gates and everything outside of the gates for lack of a better words lives the common class. Only a certain class of people were allowed in the inner gates unless they were serving/working. Even if they were serving only certain people had access to the Queen.
Think back further to when the world was ruled by the matriarch and Goddesses. Goddesses were worshipped by men. Men had to bring the proper offerings to a Goddess/Temple. In order to enter the main temple gates you needed a minimum hefty offering or be a known noble man who’s paid the cost to be a boss and can get in anywhere because he’s rich. Thereafter, each Goddess has her offering price or requirements. I am using this language to make it real for you. Because there are too many black women who say money doesn’t matter and too many men who want you to believe that money shouldn’t matter. Men say these same sentiments, “all women want is money.”
Money is a modern day offering. Offerings are always required for anything. I’ve illustrated this in other posts and in my book that men use to put in “work” even if they were not well to do…Regular men had to invest in romantic love and send flowers, love letters, poems, jewelry, a diamond ring, marriage and a promise to provide, etc. Nowadays, women have been brainwashed into accepting nothing, crumbs or whatever their bare minimum standard is.
Ask yourself, where do you belong? Inside the Gates receiving offerings or outside the gates settling and paying tribute to a man who really wishes he can be in the inner temple gates?
Men who engage in long relationships without marriage no where in sight get into those relationships for consistent sex benefits, support, nurturing, labour from women and more. These men depend on the good girls, average women, pick me women and women who don’t know their worth or require worthy offerings so they can continue to look for the Goddess they really want or sample several other women. These men will go from temple to temple with their tongues out like dogs, sampling everything until they feel pressured to settle down and get married. And unfortunately, some continue the same behavior even after marriage.
These men who settle for the women they have, are constantly trying to get with other women who they know they can never have access to via social media or in real life. They’re in women’s inboxes, peeking in at only fans, etc.) Social media has allowed some men to peek inside the gates of what rich men are doing and the type of women they have access to. Social media has also allowed women to see what some everyday women and deemed gorgeous women are receiving from men. And ladies, if you’re settling and not receiving anything from your man on a regular basis, start treating yourself like a Goddess and watch everything change. Men are now complaining that social media has “ruined” women, but that’s only because women can now see other women receiving weekly flowers, date nights, shopping sprees, gifts, and more. These men don’t want women to expect that from them. And ladies, it’s true, if he wanted to, he would.
Yes, it’s true, every woman won’t get a millionaire. But, that doest mean every woman can’t have a provider. A man can provide on any level. You may not be able to live a lavish lifestyle but he can provide within his means. Or you can level up and become a Goddess in the inner Gates.
Guard Your Temple
Another modern day example, as times are changing, is going shopping in a luxury store. These days, almost anyone can walk into one unless you’re clearly a bum. These stores have perimeters in place. Security, standing at the entry. Pretensions sales persons with their noses in the air that will not serve everyone. Items, behind the glass/counter. The prices steadily increases or you may have to have a sales history with said store because they don’t want to be accessible to the masses. These items are special or status symbols that were meant for the upper class or individuals who can afford the price.
So, why are you leaving your front door wide open and allowing Bums to enter and exit and take and do what they want as they please? (Even McDonalds have placed combination entry to their bathrooms because they don’t want homeless or sketchy people having access to their bathrooms.) The same should apply to the levels of men who shouldn’t even have access to your Orbit, your energy, a chance to call you and run game on you or even a date if he offers you that…let alone your body!
- Are homeless men allowed to enter your temple?
- Are project/hood niggas allowed to enter your temple?
- Men who’ve been in and out of prison allowed to enter?
- Old ass men still acting like YN’s and Dusties?
- Known dogs, cheaters, womanizers and misogynist?
- Average men with the wrong mindsets who will never meet their “peak” who turn red pill?
- Above average men with the wrong mindsets?
- Rich men with the wrong mindsets?
Everybody cannot have access to you! They must be a man of good character traits, have a provider mindset, providing what YOU want and actually love women and know their role as a man.
Don’t Allow Men to Determine Your Worth & Standards
Men are trying to erase women receiving offerings or what we call today as (having standards or requirements) by:
- Moving the dating standards to coffee, hikes, car meet ups, drink dates, no dates, etc.
- It isn’t a universal standard any longer to bring flowers on a first date, some type of gift or open doors (this use to be the norm)
Never loose sight of receiving an offering based on what you think you’re worth
- If you go to someone’s house as a guest you bring something (offering)
- If you go to a party, you bring something (offering)
- Your church ask for tithes and (offerings) every week
- Your job (offers) you pay & benefits in exchange for your work
- But somehow women allow men to (offer) them nothing or crumbs
How to receive your Offering Worth
Step 1
Decide what is required from a man to get behind your gates. This would be called your Standards and what your Require from a man.
What are Your Standards?
For example-
You only accept phone calls
You only accept traditional dates (not meetups)
Ladies, please get out of this, “I don’t see nothing wrong with meeting for a cup of coffee, etc.
This man more than likely knows that he doesn’t belong in your temple (or store) and just want to see what you’re all about and see if you actually have standards that are fixed or adjustable due to loneliness, desperation or just giving it out for free with a little flattery, food or a flight out of town.
What do you Require as Offerings from Men?
To be wined and dined weekly?
To receive flowers on a regular?
Cash money?
Monthly allowance?
Shopping sprees?
Jewelry?
Designer accessories?
Bill pay?
Homes?
Cars?
Step 2
Establish boundaries for your temple. Certain things just aren’t permitted. If a man does xy or z he is expelled from the temple, your orbit or he no longer exists to you!
So now that you are thinking of yourself as a Goddess or royalty. No man can have access to the temple without your consent. No man can enter the temple, get time, energy or access to your inner temple without proper offering at the Goddess discretion.
Allowing a man to come in and window shop your temple can no longer take place. He cannot touch, kiss, fondle or penetrate the temple just because he wants to and then leave. Allow no man to simply come into your orbit and merely flatter you with words, and crumb offerings of Good Morning beautiful text messages leading to nowhere. House dates, walks, bowling, ice cream dates or any restaurants or any outing you have absolutely no interest in. He is interested in you, “getting to know you” and your desires. You establish the standards and the requirements not the man. This will separate the men who just want to use or sample you for free versus the men who are willing to invest in you. Unfortunately, there will be a lot of men who are just playing around, but it’s better to know that upfront than to end up being used or later claiming you were involved with a narcissist. No ma’am, he was just playing a role to get what he wanted for crumbs and move on after receiving what he wanted. If every woman had standards, required offerings and knew their worth…Men would have to be serious and chose a woman because they have invested into her. But since women have lost the plot and giving it away for free…men will continue to be boys and play.
Again everything that heterosexual men do is for the attention of women. Men were made to serve and “worship” women! Please don’t get hung up on the use of worship…because of the Lord and the Bible. This is a fact that this is man’s purpose and to bring you everything you want and need! But all of this is lost, stolen and hidden to serve the patriarchy. Just think even if you didn’t fit the patriarchal crafted beauty standard and you were the only woman left in the world who so happened to be below average or not deemed attractive (if men were safe). All of the men would be lined up to get a glance at you. All of the men would be vying for you to choose them. These men would bring you everything that you asked for and required! You'd still be desired. Men would want access to your feminine energy, your softness, your voice, your laughter, your body and everything else that is opposing to the masculine. And if there weren’t any men who couldn’t offer you what you wanted why would you accept scraps from some men versus choosing the men who are bringing it? So, why accept scraps today? Build a roster of men who desire you! Unless one man is bringing you everything and locking his Goddess down because he doesn’t want any of the other men in the world to have any type of access to you. Can you now see, that this is what men who really desire you will do? They don’t even want those other men to have you, they will meet your standards/requirements and secure you with marriage.
Treat yourself as a Goddess, one of one, and you can easily get everything you want from any man. But here is the thing, you have to position yourself in front of the group of men who find your look the most beautiful. The men who think of all of the other women in the world, they are attracted to you, they desire you. You are their dream girl and they will meet your requirements. Yes there are many women to choose from and the women who meet the crafted beauty standards are having their way if they haven’t adopted the brain of a bird due to designed programming. There are also other women on the beauty or confidence scale who are also getting everything that they want, need and require from men. This also means that you may have to look at other races of men. Just look back at black men over the past 50 years. Most of these men are committed to being playas, old YNs, they still haven’t settled down, they still talking about “I don’t trust no woman” they are still trying to get their life together and now want women to settle more and more since black women outpace them all while you worship them and cater to them. And even worse, they are out right saying that they want 50/50 relationships, it takes two, or they are not providing for a woman or taking care of a woman. Some may say I'll provide if she's my wife. But best believe, they want you to audition for a role they never intend on casting you in. A man must show you he is a provider in dating prior to marriage.
So called Hoes, Sex Workers, InstaModels & Only Fans Gilries Offerings
Until recently, I never understood why some drop dead gorgeous women pose half naked on socials or get certain enhancements or lead with sex. It’s because a large number of women…those who aren’t acting out of trauma are competing with other women. They know that men are driven by sex and use that knowledge to their advantage, whether they choose to give it up or not. (Believe it or not, you can get a lot out of a man and never sleep with them…I personally have).
These women know that they’re hundreds of Goddesses in the inner Temple gates. In order to be the top Goddess you have to be the most alluring, magnetic, beautiful, adorned, enchanting and putting men in a trance gets the most offerings or they can set their prices the highest / require or get the most.
Nevertheless, unlike the church girls, good girls and the modest women controlled by male manipulated religion. Those women are positioning themselves to be the top chosen women or the top highest paid Goddess (the only caveat is that these women are attracting a certain type of man) they may be rich (most likely athletes, rappers or closet freaks) but the majority of those men do not have good character and they are only there for a short time not a long time. However these women are getting the offers that they require rather you agree with it or not. Homes, Birkins, AP’s, Luxury Cars, etc. It’s an easy hustle versus going out and sifting through who’s generous or not…they let the tricks and sponsors come to them. I am not suggesting that you get into that lifestyle but if you take this route or have a OF, keep your prices high, just like those women.
At any rate, when you know your worth and have real requirements, you can get what you want without giving it up or being in a relationship going nowhere that primarily benefits the man. Some women are still giving men physical access without marriage and still getting nothing in return. So who is smarter? The so called hoes who pose with their legs open and get a new car paid in full or a woman who is in a relationship with a man for years who gets dinner dates, occasional flowers and a few gifts, possible maintenance money but are also cooking, cleaning, delivering babies and waiting on a ring and other unspoken offerings they may or may not ask for and never receive. At least the “hoes” are getting paid.
So going forward, treat yourself as a Goddess in the Inner Temple Gates.
- Only certain men can have access behind the gates.
- If he doesn’t have the money for the things you require, don’t waste your time
- If he isn’t at your level, he can’t even get behind the gates
- If he doesn’t have the same mindset of providing offerings, don’t waste your time
- Decide what type of Offerings you require (your standards, requirements and boundaries) Not your friends, not what your family says, not what the church or religion says but what you want for your offerings
- If you want A-Z, you cannot entertain men who can only bring A-C
- If you need to Level up to get A-J or if you want A-Z do that (also remember confidence supersedes anything. There are women who don’t meet the beauty standards who are spoiled by men)
- Stay away from men who are living in Role Reversal. Unfortunately, this is the majority of black men and women. We were conditioned to be masculine and the men were conditioned to be feminine this is why we are constantly at war and can’t come together.
- Men want to be pursued and chased.
- Women are shooting their shot at men.
- Women are looking for good looking fine men instead of resourceful worshipers.
- Women aren’t accepting proper offerings.
- Women are okay with paying for dates, paying for every other date, leaving tips. (Why are you paying an offering to a man, when he wants what you have and what any other woman has?)
- Men are saying they don’t want to be used, taken advantage of and they want to make sure a woman loves them for them all while you give them free sex and free labour. This is ass backwards! Ladies, you need to make sure a man loves you for you and not using you and entering and exiting your temple as he pleases. There are men who will see their dream woman, lock in, marry her and be faithful. Unfortunately, men with good character traits are rare and men want to enter every temple and sample every Goddess in sight (and it doesn’t matter if they are already in a relationship or married) The nature of men and their real purpose will supersede a girlfriend or vows if he hasn’t conquered self control. Stop having sex with men who don’t heavily invest in you. The offerings you require must be high. If not, he can give to several Goddesses to get access or again some men are offering nothing but Netflix, 2 for $20 and a coffee. This is sad because again, good men are rare and women have been conditioned to believe they have to prove they love a man by not asking him for anything. These men are users and some of them actually believe this because it has been so programmed into both men and women heads through music, movies, television and romantic fairy tales the industry sells to women. Women think they have to audition, cook, clean, sex, jump through hoops to get a man. No! Not at all. All you have to do is exist! Be the opposite of the masculine. Be divinely you. Yes! You can put your best forward and adorn yourself, be pleasant and have a wonderful personality and good character traits but a woman should never perform for a man.
Never ever be desperate again and accept a crumb thrown in your temple! Require chivalry. Require romance. Require marriage. Require gifts! Require cash! Require whatever you want!
xoxo Goddess
